New Year's resolutions are always exciting, we have all this new found energy and excitement that we are going to do certain things that are going to change our lives. Big plans, big dreams nothing is going to stand in our way, can you relate? I love the process of reflection and then goal setting to kick off the New Year with amazing intentions for the coming year.
Since being a mom I have always looked back at the previous year in reflection and figured out what great things am I going to do in the coming year to make life as I want it, how do I want home life to look, is this the year I make exercise a priority, maybe we plan something big with the kids, maybe there is a money goal. Let's be real though, the excitement can dim very quickly when real life takes over and the day to day grind wears on you, and you don't have an actual plan to hold yourself to these resolutions or goals. I'm guilty for not following through on many goals and resolutions in the past and it can be a big hit to the self confidence a few months in and you realize no consistent steps have been taken in the direction of those goals.
The past is behind us so let's hit this years goals with a new found intentions and success. Here are 6 steps to make your New Years Resolution and Goals a success.
- Get Specific, you need to really narrow down and get specific about what that goal is, so jut saying I'm going to exercise isn't going to be as effective as I'm going to loose 40 pounds, or I'm going to be a confident runner by spring 2021.
- Break Big Dreams Into Smaller Steps, this is very important, this is where the planning comes in, you are really thinking about your goal and how you will achieve it. Being able to accomplish smaller steps within the goal builds confidence and keeps you on track to the big picture. So instead of only have a goal of loosing 40 lbs with no road map, break it down, what things have to happen for that to be achieved? regular exercise, healthy eating, a trainer or group to keep you accountable, a set time in your schedule to exercise, a space to exercise, the list could go on. Small steps keep you motivated as you accomplish them and keep you working in a clear direction.
- Understand Why You Haven't Made A Change In The Past, until you really grasp why you haven't already changed or why your sticking to these old habits it's going to be really hard to find the motivation and energy to make that hard left to a new life. Identify rd blocks in the past and map out new ways to get past them, seeing those bumps in the rd before they come can really help you succeed when life gets hard.
- Commit Yourself, this is where accountability comes in, say those goals out loud to your friends or family, heck both. Join an in person or online group that will get you connected to other people with similar goals, excitement and motivation is contagious, this strategy can really help you hold to your plan and when things get tough you have a group of people behind you to cheer you on, they will be invested in your success as you will be in theirs, this hands down has been the deal breaker for me staying on track to achieving goals.
- Change Is A Process, don't get caught up with how long its taking, as long as you continue to move forward you are winning. Remember unhealthy or undesired habits that you are trying to change probably took years to develop so how can we expect to change them in a matter of weeks or even months. Many times we are working toward a goal of implementing something for the rest of our lives, so just being consistent and doing it everyday or so many times a week is a huge win right there, be patient with yourself and see the wins amongst the daily things you do that are getting you that much closer to the goal.
- How You Handle Set Backs, a setback is one of the most common reasons why people give up on their goals or resolutions. If you suddenly fall back into a bad habit, don't view that as a failure, the rd to success isn't straight we will all encounter twists and dead ends at times, it's important to asses and pivot. Figure out why it happened, did something trigger your setback, and what might you do differently next time. Give yourself grace and continue on working towards your goal.
Keep your eye on the prize, accomplishing a goal is an amazing feeling, it can boost your confidence and your self worth. It is worth working hard towards, pushing when times get hard, you made this resolution or goal for a reason, a good reason, keep that clear in your mind. Not only do we work towards goals for ourselves but we do it to show our children how important it is to set your eyes on something you want and work hard for it.
If you need a place where moms support moms and their goals, pop over to my FB GROUP ( Stay At Home Moms Crushing Life's Doubts)
I'll be cheering you on!
Ebony
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